Response To Playing "The Blame Game"
When faced with an unpleasant situation many people will become rebellious. Their work will begin to suffer, their attitudes will become crude, and life will become miserable to themselves and those around them. Their routines are disrupted, things are not the "same", and they become uncomfortable.
To keep this from happening, we need to take responsibility for our actions. Instead of making one person responsible for our actions, and attitudes, take that responsibility upon ourselves, and look to God for the answer or solution. Now, sometimes, God will allow negative things to occur. But, He has also given us free will. It is up to us how to apply that free-will. We can say "Screw everybody", or we can go to God, thru His Son Jesus Christ, for guidance, thru prayer, and reading the Holy Bible, and consultation with trusted friends.
When Adam and Eve were discovered in the Garden of Eden of eating from the tree that God told them not to eat from, blame started. Eve was approached by the Serpent, and was told, that eating from the tree would not be harmful, but would make her wise as God. (This is also a good example of the Satan's ability to fool us with his lies.) When Eve ate from the tree, she offered the fruit to Adam, telling him it was OK. When approached by God, and God questioned Adam, Adam's response was "That woman you gave me, she made me do it." Of course Eve's response was to blame the Serpent. The buck stopped with him.
Adam was told by God, not to eat from that tree, but Adam disregard what God said, and was lead astray by Eve. Adam knew what not to do, but chose to do it anyway. Adam's only defense was to blame Eve.
Blaming others is done in an attempt to shift responsibility for my life, and my mistakes to someone else. We must assume responsibility for our actions, learn to say "No" when someone makes an unreasonable request, and when we fail in some project, or deed, learn from it. It is not often in life when things go exactly as we plan. When we hit a bump in the road, it is an opportunity. A chance to learn and to grow.
Sometimes, when God wants us to make in a change in our lives, He will allow things to happen to us that we will not understand. Instead of looking for someone, or something to blame, look to the Lord for guidance. Ask Him to show you how to behave. His plans are surely greater than our own. If He puts a stop to our plans, don't look for someone to blame, look to Him to make His plans clear.
This, more often than not, requires patients. The Lord has His own time table, and it's usually not the same as mine.
Often things will happen to us, that we have no control over. Crimes against us can range from theft to murder. When we are violated, our natural response is to seek some type of payment from that person that did the wrong to us. The feelings of loss, distrust, and the paranoia that can arise from knowing that we are not as protected as we thought that we were or, the anger that starts when our private life's are disrupted by someone or something that we didn't even know can be devastating. All of these feelings can become just as disabling as the violation that was brought against us. We can very easily blame these negative feelings on that person or thing that instigated the problem in the first place.
Bless those who persecute you. Don’t curse them; pray that God will bless them. Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with each other. Don’t be too proud to enjoy the company of ordinary people. And don’t think you know it all!
Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable. Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.
Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say,
“I will take revenge;
I will pay them back,”
says the Lord.
Instead, “If your enemies are hungry, feed them.If they are thirsty, give them something to drink.
In doing this, you will heap burning coals of shame on their heads.”
Don’t let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good. Romans 12: 14-21